Be Still! God Is Crafting Your Love Story TooApril 21, 2015
My wife Aileen and I are four months into the rest of our lives and I am astounded by God’s grace for blessing me with her. I know that this is only the beginning and every day we’re reminded that marriage is the union of two imperfect people; but I thank God that He brought us together and continues to be the center of our relationship.
Growing up, I was absolutely not a ladies man. I always wanted to be suave like James Bond, but I was really just nerdy and awkward. I was probably closer to this:
I easily fell in love with every pretty girl I met. I fantasized about dates we would never go on and I worked so hard to impress them.
College Would Be Different
Starting college felt like a fresh start. It gave me greater freedom and it was a chance to change my image in a brand new crowd. I left the fish from my high school pond and was on to fishing in the big, blue sea. I changed my bait and up’d my game. Fine, I didn’t really have game. It was really a bunch of clowning around. On my good days, my antics to impress the women I met left me with a busted lip or scrapped knees. On my bad days, they left me with heartaches.
Friends and family encouraged me by telling me that the woman God had in store for me was still out there. They reminded me to be patient because God is in control. It seemed more like something nice to say to someone that’s losing hope. I finally learned to be still in my search for a helpmate. It’s a lesson that God is constantly reminding me since I’m prone to take matters into my own hands.
When I Finally Learned To Be Still
Through all the frustrating times, I prayed that God would send me the wife He wanted for me. I prayed that she would first and foremost love God. I wanted a wife that understood me and love me for who I am. It was also important to me that our families would get along and that she would partner with me in life and ministry.
I slowed my roll in my last year of college and shortly after graduation, Aileen’s family showed up at my church. Where else would I find my future wife than in church?! I fell in love with the way she worshiped and the conversations we had about God. She understood me like no one else I had ever met. It was like we spoke our own language. I want to say I was suave, but I was my awkward self and she loved it! I can’t say it was my “game” either. The night I first asked her out on a date, I was driving her and others home from church. I strategically made sure she was the last one dropped off. I drove up to her house and ask her out to a movie. She said, “I’ll need to see,” jumped out of the car, slammed the door, and ran inside her house. I guess my game made her a little nervous. She doesn’t run away anymore though.
Our Love Story Continues…
Aileen and I were reflecting the other night as we neared our fourth month of marriage and we asked one another, “Do you feel that you have grown closer to God since getting married?” We both answered yes. Then we asked, “Have you grown closer to God because of me or in spite of me?” and thank God, in our first four months of marriage, we have been able to encourage one another in our walks with God! I know that it was God’s will for us to be together and that He is working everything for our good. God was always in control as He carefully crafted our love story. He was gracious and brought Aileen into my life. God answered my prayers and gave me Aileen as my wife. I didn’t need to do anything more than to wait on His timing. I am humbled by God’s sovereignty and His grace.